Welcome to Soulful Rise
This is a space for women who’ve left unhealthy relationships and know they don’t want to repeat the cycle. It’s a place to understand what’s shaped your patterns in love, so you can choose healthy love from clarity, not survival.
This isn’t another place where I’m going to tell you to raise your standards or just love yourself more.
Maybe the relationship ended years ago, and you’ve tried to understand what happened. You’ve read the books, listened to podcasts, journaled, reflected. Maybe you’ve gone to therapy and worked on yourself. You know what you won’t tolerate anymore. Now you’re more careful about who you let into your life.
And still, there may be things about love that don’t completely make sense.
Maybe now you don’t always trust what you feel. You wonder whether something is actually off or whether your past is talking.
That’s the conversation we’re having inside Soulful Rise.
There’s so much happening beneath the surface of our experiences in love. What we learned about closeness, what our bodies learned to recognize as safe, the wounds and needs we carry with us, the ways we learned to protect ourselves, and the conditioning we’ve accumulated about who we’re supposed to be and how we’re supposed to love.
And underneath all of that is you.
The woman underneath everything she learned she had to do to survive, belong, stay connected, or keep herself safe. That’s what I want to help you understand here.
Why I created Soulful Rise
It started with my own life and a lot of questions I couldn’t answer. I’ve had unhealthy relationships. I’ve known what it feels like to leave one and promise myself I would never end up there again, only to realize that knowing what I didn’t want wasn’t the same as understanding what had shaped the choices I was making in love.
Over time, trying to understand my own experiences became something much bigger. I started noticing how my relationships, emotions, body, and past experiences were connected. I became interested in what happens when we stop treating each struggle as a separate problem and start looking at the whole picture.
I’m still a student of this work and of myself. That will never end. What I share here comes from what I’ve lived, what I’ve learned, and what I’ve come to understand along the way.
I’m not here because I have relationships perfectly figured out. Nobody does.
I’m here because making sense of my own relationships changed the way I live and love, and I want other women to have access to that kind of understanding too.
What we’ll explore here
We’ll explore attachment and what your experiences may have taught you about love, closeness, and connection. We’ll talk about the nervous system and the ways your body learned to protect you. We’ll look at core wounds and unmet needs, the conditioning you’ve picked up along the way, and the patterns that can grow around all of it.
And we’ll also explore who you are underneath all of that.
I don’t believe one framework explains a human being.
I believe the pieces can help us see the whole woman more clearly. And that’s really what Soulful Rise is about.
Understanding yourself deeply enough that you can begin recognizing the difference between an old protection and a present truth. Between what feels familiar and what is actually right for you. Between the voice of conditioning and your own inner knowing.
Not so you can get everything right in love. So you can become more able to trust yourself inside it.
If you’re new here, begin with Break the Cycle
Before you read everything else I’ve written, I’d start here.
Break the Cycle is a free five-part audio series. I created to help you understand why these patterns can continue even after you’ve left the relationships and done a lot of work on yourself.
The episodes are short and build on one another, so I recommend starting at the beginning and listening in order.
→ Start with Episode 1: Why It Keeps Happening
And if you find yourself thinking, Oh. That explains something I haven’t been able to put into words…
You’re in the right place.
I’m so glad you’re here.
🤍Misty
Thank you for the restack 🫶🏽